Nobody warned you about this part
Everyone talks about sleepless nights. Fewer people mention that after a baby, your body can feel like it belongs to someone else for a while. Your skin, your shape, your energy, and sometimes even the way closeness with your partner feels.
Many women quietly decide that something must be wrong with them. It isn't. Hormones shift during pregnancy, after birth and while breastfeeding, and the body needs time and care to find its balance again. What helps most is treating your body like something you look after, not something you criticise.
Why this matters for closeness, too
When you feel at home in your body, it's easier to relax, to be present and to enjoy being touched. When part of you is worried about how you look or whether it will feel comfortable, you start avoiding the moment instead of enjoying it. That is very common, and it is also very fixable.
An hour just for you
Choose one evening this week, ideally after the children are asleep. Dim the lights, put on music you love and lock the door if you need to. This hour has no to-do list.
1. Water first
Start with a bath or a long shower and let the day wash off. The Pretty But Wild line is made for exactly this: bubbling bath salts for the bath, a foaming shower gel if you prefer the shower, and a matching body mist for afterwards.
2. Smooth the skin
Once or twice a week, gently exfoliate. Scratch Me All is a scrub made for both body and intimate areas. It leaves the skin soft and ready for cream.
3. Care for your body, slowly
Apply cream with your full attention, the way you'd care for someone you love. Sexy Glow with golden micropearls leaves the skin softly shimmering. For the bust and hips, which often change most after pregnancy, VOL+UP is a firming cream made for those areas.
4. Don't skip the most delicate skin
Intimate skin is affected by hormonal changes too, and ordinary soap and body cream are not made for it. A daily vulvar moisturiser such as Orgie Hydra Intima helps keep it soft and comfortable. For closeness, a hydrating lubricant with hyaluronic acid such as Sexitive HIDRAGEL Women makes things comfortable from the very first time. Needing either is not a sign that something is wrong. It's simply good care.
Read more: Vulvar hydration and why pH matters.
5. Layer your scent
Wear the same scent in two layers: a body mist first, then the perfume on your pulse points. The scent lasts longer and feels like you.
- Warm and sensual: Petit Mort body mist + Petit Mort eau de parfum
- Playful and bold: Crazy Girl body mist + Crazy Girl eau de toilette
6. Look in the mirror and say one kind thing
This feels strange at first. Look at yourself and name one thing you like. Your eyes, your hands, the body that carried a child. One thing. Next time, two.
"But I don't feel confident"
You don't have to feel it first. Confidence often follows action, not the other way around. Treat yourself as someone worth caring for, and over time you start believing it.
Order quietly, at your own pace
Browse in the evening when the house is quiet. Have your order sent to a parcel locker, or pick it up from our showroom in Tallinn (you'll see the address at checkout). Every product comes with an explanation, and if you have a question you'd rather not ask out loud, write to us.
Find more body care in Intimate Care.
At LoveAid, we believe confidence starts with caring for yourself first.
